When we begin a new year, there is a lot of conversation around resolutions, starting fresh and new beginnings. While all of those things have their place, it is worth recognizing that when the clock hits midnight on December 31st, unresolved emotions don’t suddenly disappear (although that would be amazing).
If you are moving through an intense time in your life, feel the pressure of the new year in any way or are just navigating life - I want you to know you are not alone. I always like to think of January as a buffer month, give yourself grace and know it is the perfect time to approach anything you are feeling with kindness and love. Understanding ourselves deeply and living in alignment with that is a lifelong journey. You are exactly where you are supposed to be, going through exactly what you need to be going through.
I have personally been feeling this in a big way. The last few weeks of 2018, I had a huge realization. Even with all of the inner work I do, I was in a very low place energetically. For weeks I had been feeling negative, experiencing anger and questioning decisions I made. I didn’t even realize that I had been pushing these emotions down, wanting to focus on the positive and subconsciously thinking that it wasn’t fair of me to feel this way with all of the blessings in my life. When someone I love looked me in the eye, really saw me and asked what was going on, I broke down. I hadn’t even noticed that I wasn’t giving these emotions the attention they needed, completely missing the lesson underneath the surface.
I made the decision right there to open up and deeply feel what I was going through. It was a really hard couple of weeks but almost immediately I felt a sense of relief. I journaled a lot. I meditated. I cried. I kept showing up for myself. And then I woke up one morning and it was like the clouds had lifted. I could see the light.
Suddenly, I didn’t even notice the small things that had been triggering me, my writer’s block dissipated and the questions I had been asking became clear. I felt energetically lighter.
So while articles online may be telling you “new year, new you!” or whatever they say these days, this is your gentle reminder that whatever you are feeling, the dark and the light is worth exploring. Give yourself permission to feel it all.
A few supportive tools to move through the emotions:
- Talk with those that can hold space for you
- Know that only you can decide when you are ready to change your perspective or had enough of feeling a certain way
- Give yourself the time and space to truly feel what is coming up (I personally stayed off of social media for the week because I noticed I was feeling distracted when I did go on or falling into the comparison trap — focus on YOU and your life)
- Ask for what you need
- Create as many pockets of alone time as you can
- Have patience
- Trust the process
- Surrender to the Universe
You have all the answers inside of you, you just need to clear the space within yourself to access it.
* Photo x Object Liberty